tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35911807.post2652383880168682887..comments2024-03-29T03:59:13.414-04:00Comments on The Muse Has Left The Building...: BirthHeatherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13306636563912007809noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35911807.post-83694633234949801632006-12-21T13:13:00.000-05:002006-12-21T13:13:00.000-05:00Sweetie, it WON'T happen with another baby. And y...Sweetie, it WON'T happen with another baby. And you WILL have a VBAC. It's apparent that you've learned so much more now, you know better than to be strongarmed again. You have to tell yourself that you can and you will. Your body isn't broken, even with "extra padding." Your body was made to birth your babies the way that nature intended, and that doesn't include IV's, monitors, and drugs. Are you part of a local ICAN group?? <br /><br />Have you seen this yet?<br /><br />http://i39.photobucket.com/albums/e166/RachaelReese/apple.jpg<br /><br />Now does that just say it all or what?<br /><br />Email me if you want to chat. tamingestella@yahoo.comAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35911807.post-28101238341467138102006-12-14T17:17:00.000-05:002006-12-14T17:17:00.000-05:00I feel for all you've been through.
You've express...I feel for all you've been through.<br />You've expressed it so well and I hope it helps with your healing.<br /><br />You know, you have a BEAUTIFUL baby with a loving and eloquent Mother, and an adoring Father. She's a lucky girl!<br /><br />The American health system seems to over medicalize birth, and deny new mothers and babies their natural course to establishing a good strong breastfeeding partnership.<br />A baby will survive better than well on clostrum alone for the first 4 -5 days. Any other information will have a formula companys marketing departments hand behind it somewhere.<br /><br />I wish you the very best for a home birth next time and success establishing breastfeeding, if that's what you wish to do. (Feed frequently, and on demand in the first 8 weeks and you'll be assured a good long term milk supply).<br /><br />Annie. ( I had two hospital births, unmedicated, but didn't stay more than 3 hours after each birth because I believe home is the best place to establish breastfeeding - with lots and lots of family support, and faith in your body's ability to continue sustaining your childs nutritional needs post partum.)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35911807.post-71753199746866944442006-12-14T15:37:00.000-05:002006-12-14T15:37:00.000-05:00She's a beautiful little baby.
Part of my wanti...She's a beautiful little baby. <br /><br /><br />Part of my wanting to do this is because we all need HONEST birth stories-we need to rage within the safety of the "arms" of eachother, of sisters in birth. We need the comfort of knowing that we aren't crazy for being mad, or sad or lonely or scared during birth. <br /><br />Our culture doesn't let mother's listen to their bodies and their babies. And it drives me nuts. You could have had a perfectly normal birth.<br /><br />And someone didn't let you.<br /><br />Thank you for sharing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35911807.post-14476863782845985602006-12-14T15:03:00.000-05:002006-12-14T15:03:00.000-05:00Heather, I don't want to in anyway mitigate or inv...Heather, I don't want to in anyway mitigate or invalidate what you felt and feel. Obviously I wasn't there. I can tell you though that many women don't bond immediately with their children - contrary to a lot of the rosie first mom stories. I bonded quickly with Libby after a C-section but didn't bond with the twins for a long time. <br /><br />I do think that the quality of birth experience affects bonding but I also think that at least for some of women - bonding takes getting to really know that little person that was inside you now that they are out. <br /><br />I can remember being in tears when pregnant with Carolyn because though I would do anything to protect that life inside me, I didn't feel bonded to her the way so many moms talked about. She wasn't a person to me, I didn't know what she was like, nothing. I was sure I was a failure before I ever became a mom. My best friend listened to me cry and than quietly told me that she hadn't either. That it just is that way for some of us. We need to actually meet that person first. <br /><br />Thanks for sharing your story and if anything I hope that knowing your experience can help you in your role as a doula. Both to help them not fall into the same trap but also to get through it if they do end up with a traumatic experienceAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com